OT Having an AGH! week

Posted by NightMist on March 17, 2009, 11:21 pm

Actually AGH! might be putting it mildly.

From least to most dire:

My parents are at it again. They did not RSVP DD#2's wedding
invitation, though they would have to travel over a thousand miles to
attend. They just assumed that she knew they were coming. They do
stuff like that, a lot. Since they had been talking like they were
coming, she called them. Of course they are coming. They also
actually asked if Vido could cometo the wedding too. Vido is my mom's
Italian greyhound. Apparently they figured that since it is going to
be outdoors and not "a proper church wedding" that it would be OK.
Um, no. In fact the formal garden it is in prohibits dogs on the
grounds. Well for a wonder they at least asked, and that is a great
concession. I suggested to DD that she call them back and point out
that this is not an informal occasion, otherwise they might show up in
jeans.

The landlord's dependable, reasonably intelligent, and honest handyman
has quit him. We discovered this when we had to call and get yet
another leak in the plumbing fixed. So now we are back to delays,
procrastination, and generally iffy maintenance til someone new is
hired. I hope it is not another loadie or "hey I'll paint the whole
darn house for a case of beer" kind of guy.
I'm still looking for someplace new. However I am insisting on
someplace better, so it is taking some time.

Ash has some sort of bug that is making him cranky and miserable.
With a non-verbal kid that is tough. Fortunately he has learned that
he can take our hands and put them where it hurts and say "Ow" and we
get the message. So we know he has had a headache, his tummy is
bothering him, and his throat hurts. It is obvious that his nose is
stuffy and he has some digestive upset. This is keeping him out of
school, and that always puts him out of sorts.

And DD#1's BF hit her.
I darn near hit her myself when she weepingly explained how it was her
fault. Some days I have to wonder if that child is a changeling.
Of course she did not call the police, but I did get her to call her
counselor. Who also could not get her to call the police. The
counselor is taking steps to move her up on the waiting lists she is
on though. The ones for help in getting child care, employment,
housing, and etc. BF will not watch their baby while she works, so DD
is unemployed. No job means no money which means no options. I did
tell her, repeatedly, that the minute he laid hands on her she had a
hundred and one places to go, including my house. But the way CPS is
locally, she and a LOT of other women with children are afraid to go
to a shelter. DD is afraid if she comes to stay with me that that
will put both Damian and Ash at risk from CPS. So for the moment she
is staying with Mr. Asshole, who is very very sorry. Really truly he
is. AGH!

NightMist
What do you mean it is only Tuesday?
--

Nothing has been the same since that house fell on my sister.

Posted by TerriLee in WA on March 17, 2009, 11:02 pm

On Mar 17, 8:21=A0pm, nightmi...@gmail.com (NightMist) wrote:
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Prayers on the way. Email me off group. I tried to send email, but not
sure it got there. I think I can help.

TerriLee in WA (state)
http://community.webshots.com/user/tlbishop

Posted by Polly Esther on March 17, 2009, 11:17 pm

I take it that CPS = gov't = c.r.a.p. Did I follow you okay? There must be
other places that offer shelter, support and guidance for victims of
domestic abuse. You need better guidance than I can offer but what about
the Salvation Army, a minister or an attorney? Of course, there's this -
your daughter is probably at the age where nothing you say or suggest is
going to make any difference. You just must get her attention. I wish I
knew how. Polly

On Mar 17, 8:21 pm, nightmi...@gmail.com (NightMist) wrote:
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Prayers on the way. Email me off group. I tried to send email, but not
sure it got there. I think I can help.

TerriLee in WA (state)
http://community.webshots.com/user/tlbishop

Posted by Joanna on March 17, 2009, 11:45 pm

If he did it once he'll do it again. Hopefully she wises up sooner then
later. But I'm guessing she feels stuck. I totally get not wanting to
get CPS involved. I would try Salvation Army as well. Short of that
though I will keep you all in my prayers.
Take Care
Joanna
Alberta

Posted by nzlstar* on March 17, 2009, 11:48 pm

just popped in to see who was up to what here.
wow, you got something to deal with there for sure.
as oprah and many others say...
if he hits you once, he'll hit you again.
also men who hit women might also hit children.
i dont give a flying whatever if he 'says' he is sorry.
that is only to make him feel better.
dont mean sh*t in my opinion.
he needs help for his anger problem.
dd needs to get out now, asap.
take her kids and go.
there are places that can help now.
she needs only call the local police and they'll give her contact
numbers for various places that can help her.
wait no more, just do it!!!
sending vibes full of strength for DD, you and all the kids.
hugz,
jeanne
<geez, i thot i had worrys when ds showed up today and after a half
hour or so chatting he asked if he can move back home....uh,
sure...hmmm, i think he and his g/f have just outgrown one another,
grew up, matured, different views of the future for each of them. they
were only 17 when they got together and parting ways now at 25yrs.
better now than later when life is more complicated. they remain
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