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Posted by Michelle C. on October 14, 2009, 9:15 pm
Polly Esther wrote:
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> I pondered the notion of re-attaching. I gave one to a fine young
> fellow for graduation thinking he might use it in his first 'home of his
> own'. His mom fell in love with the quilt and claimed it for her own.
> She shares it with her 4 dogs and the quilt is having a hard life. No
> problem. I'll just make him another when he weds. If, of course, I'm
> not too old and shaky to thread a needle. Polly
>
Well, at least she loves it! :-)
I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
person's house. I think it was on RTCQ, I read about a quilter who gave
a quilt to a newly married nephew, and when she later visited the
couple's house found the quilt being used as dog bed in the barn. Yikes!
That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life. I gave one to my
young cousin--she was 6 at the time. Her dad told me she drags the
quilt everywhere with her, and that she wasn't particularly gentle with
it. That's the kind of hard life that's just fine with me. :-) She
loves it.
Best regards,
Michelle in Nevada
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Posted by Dr. Zachary Smith on October 15, 2009, 7:50 am
contradicted herself, confusing the bejabbers out of me by stating:
Definition of "gift with strings attached":
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> I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
> going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
> person's house. =A0....
> That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life. =A0
LOL! I love this place...
Doc
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Posted by Julia in MN on October 15, 2009, 12:49 pm
I don't really consider that as attaching strings -- there are no real
conditions attached to receiving the gift. It's just that if you put a
lot of time and effort into a gift -- any gift, including a purchased
gift -- you want it to be appreciated. A quilt involves more effort than
any other gift most of us give; I don't want to give one that won't be
appreciated. That being said -- I've given baby quilts to all the
grand-nieces and -nephews. I'm sure some were appreciated more than
others. But I think I put more time and effort into some than others --
a lot of them were simply pre-printed panels that I quilted and bound.
Julia in MN
Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
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> contradicted herself, confusing the bejabbers out of me by stating:
>
> Definition of "gift with strings attached":
>
>> I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
>> going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
>> person's house. ....
>> That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life.
>
> LOL! I love this place...
>
> Doc
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Posted by Dr. Zachary Smith on October 15, 2009, 2:11 pm
On Oct 15, 12:49=A0pm, Julia in MN <jaccola-AT-chartermi-
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DOT-...@jjjjjjj.jjj> wrote:
> I don't really consider that as attaching strings --
I just KNEW you were going to say that! 8^D
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> there are no real
> conditions attached to receiving the gift. It's just that if you put a
> lot of time and effort into a gift -- any gift, including a purchased
> gift -- you want it to be appreciated. A quilt involves more effort than
> any other gift most of us give; I don't want to give one that won't be
> appreciated.
You don't consider someone appreciating a gift in the manner, and to
the extent, that you expect, to be a condition?
Ok, I guess I'll chalk that one up to the inadequacies of internet
communication.
Any time I contemplate a gift, I put a lot of time and effort into it,
whether made or bought, with the *hope* that it will be appreciated.
I've been disappointed... a LOT. For a while I considered hanging up
the whole gift thing. Either that or give up putting any time or
effort into it just to be unappreciated/disappointed again. I'd like
to think I've evolved past that. I hope that I have, but I still feel
disappointment, and I try to shake it off. Apathetic gifting just
isn't in me; if I don't care enough to put myself into it, then maybe
I don't - or shouldn't - care enough to give a gift anyway. It would
be just another empty platitude. So instead I've lowered my
expectations and accepted that a gift is given *without* expectation
of appreciation, consideration, or gratitude, and that the receiver is
free to do with that gift whatever they wish, be it placed under
glass, used as a dog toy, given away, or thrown in the trash. If it's
unappreciated, it's going to be on them - not on me. YMMV.
Doc
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Posted by Julia in MN on October 15, 2009, 5:58 pm
When I think of something having strings attached, it means that I
expect something more than simply appreciation in return. I hope all of
my gifts are appreciated, but if they're not, they're not -- I don't
worry about it a lot. It sounds like our philosophy of gift giving is
pretty much the same; we just don't understand "strings attached" in the
same way. :)
Julia in MN
Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
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> On Oct 15, 12:49 pm, Julia in MN <jaccola-AT-chartermi-
> DOT-...@jjjjjjj.jjj> wrote:
>> I don't really consider that as attaching strings --
>
> I just KNEW you were going to say that! 8^D
>
>> there are no real
>> conditions attached to receiving the gift. It's just that if you put a
>> lot of time and effort into a gift -- any gift, including a purchased
>> gift -- you want it to be appreciated. A quilt involves more effort than
>> any other gift most of us give; I don't want to give one that won't be
>> appreciated.
>
> You don't consider someone appreciating a gift in the manner, and to
> the extent, that you expect, to be a condition?
> Ok, I guess I'll chalk that one up to the inadequacies of internet
> communication.
>
> Any time I contemplate a gift, I put a lot of time and effort into it,
> whether made or bought, with the *hope* that it will be appreciated.
> I've been disappointed... a LOT. For a while I considered hanging up
> the whole gift thing. Either that or give up putting any time or
> effort into it just to be unappreciated/disappointed again. I'd like
> to think I've evolved past that. I hope that I have, but I still feel
> disappointment, and I try to shake it off. Apathetic gifting just
> isn't in me; if I don't care enough to put myself into it, then maybe
> I don't - or shouldn't - care enough to give a gift anyway. It would
> be just another empty platitude. So instead I've lowered my
> expectations and accepted that a gift is given *without* expectation
> of appreciation, consideration, or gratitude, and that the receiver is
> free to do with that gift whatever they wish, be it placed under
> glass, used as a dog toy, given away, or thrown in the trash. If it's
> unappreciated, it's going to be on them - not on me. YMMV.
>
> Doc
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> fellow for graduation thinking he might use it in his first 'home of his
> own'. His mom fell in love with the quilt and claimed it for her own.
> She shares it with her 4 dogs and the quilt is having a hard life. No
> problem. I'll just make him another when he weds. If, of course, I'm
> not too old and shaky to thread a needle. Polly
>