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Posted by Michelle C. on October 15, 2009, 7:08 pm
Exactly Julia!
Best regards,
Michelle in Nevada
Julia in MN wrote:
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> I don't really consider that as attaching strings -- there are no real
> conditions attached to receiving the gift. It's just that if you put a
> lot of time and effort into a gift -- any gift, including a purchased
> gift -- you want it to be appreciated. A quilt involves more effort than
> any other gift most of us give; I don't want to give one that won't be
> appreciated. That being said -- I've given baby quilts to all the
> grand-nieces and -nephews. I'm sure some were appreciated more than
> others. But I think I put more time and effort into some than others --
> a lot of them were simply pre-printed panels that I quilted and bound.
>
> Julia in MN
>
> Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
>> contradicted herself, confusing the bejabbers out of me by stating:
>> Definition of "gift with strings attached":
>>> I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
>>> going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
>>> person's house. ....
>>> That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life.
>> LOL! I love this place...
>> Doc
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Posted by Michelle C. on October 15, 2009, 7:00 pm
Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
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> contradicted herself, confusing the bejabbers out of me by stating:
>
> Definition of "gift with strings attached":
Not really, because the person to whom the quilt is given never knows
that I have deliberated over whether they'll appreciate it or be likely
to use it for a dog bed. I never say a word to the receiver about it.
Once the quilt is given, then it's gone. However, I must be a pretty
good judge because I've never been wrong. :-)
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>> I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
>> going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
>> person's house. ....
>> That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life.
You conveniently clipped the parts of my post that made these two
seemingly different ideas make sense, Doc.
This young girl loves her quilt. She uses it. What can be more
adoring? It's not whether or not the quilt has a hard life and gets
worn through much use; it's whether the quilt is appreciated. Big
difference.
Best regards,
Michelle in Nevada
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> LOL! I love this place...
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> Doc
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Posted by Dr. Zachary Smith on October 15, 2009, 10:01 pm
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> You conveniently clipped the parts of my post that made these two
> seemingly different ideas make sense, Doc.
Again, the inadequacies of the medium. My intent was to highlight/
focus on the parts that caused my confusion - not to twist your
meaning. Apologies if you took it that way. IMO, when an unselfish
act is one-way, it is a gift; when something - anything - is expected
in return, there is a string attached. The expectation itself is the
string. YMMV.
Doc
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Posted by Michelle C. on October 16, 2009, 2:56 pm
Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
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> wrote:
>
>> You conveniently clipped the parts of my post that made these two
>> seemingly different ideas make sense, Doc.
>
> Again, the inadequacies of the medium. My intent was to highlight/
> focus on the parts that caused my confusion - not to twist your
> meaning. Apologies if you took it that way. IMO, when an unselfish
> act is one-way, it is a gift; when something - anything - is expected
> in return, there is a string attached. The expectation itself is the
> string. YMMV.
>
> Doc
I can see your point, Doc. Except that I'm saying by the time I give
the quilt, it's not an expectation because I already realize that the
receiver feels the same way about quilts that I do. I'm just saying I
won't give quilts to people who do not value them.
Actually, I don't think we're that different on this. The only thing is
that I won't give a gift--of any sort (although the topic is
quilts)--that I don't think will be appreciated. Instead I try to find
one that I think the recipient will appreciate and accept the fact that
we don't all have the same tastes. Why would I give a quilt to someone
who'd be much happier with a couple of good bottles of wine? See what
I'm saying? When something is given the giver does have some
responsibility for giving something that the receiver would like; not
just something the giver thinks the receiver "should" like.
Best regards,
Michelle in Nevada
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Posted by Dr. Zachary Smith on October 16, 2009, 3:08 pm
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>=A0See what
> I'm saying? =A0When something is given the giver does have some
> responsibility for giving something that the receiver would like; not
> just something the giver thinks the receiver "should" like.
If you're saying something like the former is a gift; the latter is
sending a message, then yes. ;-)
If not, don't bother elucidating further. I'm losing focus (migraine
- not yourgraine)
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> conditions attached to receiving the gift. It's just that if you put a
> lot of time and effort into a gift -- any gift, including a purchased
> gift -- you want it to be appreciated. A quilt involves more effort than
> any other gift most of us give; I don't want to give one that won't be
> appreciated. That being said -- I've given baby quilts to all the
> grand-nieces and -nephews. I'm sure some were appreciated more than
> others. But I think I put more time and effort into some than others --
> a lot of them were simply pre-printed panels that I quilted and bound.
>
> Julia in MN
>
> Dr. Zachary Smith wrote:
>> contradicted herself, confusing the bejabbers out of me by stating:
>> Definition of "gift with strings attached":
>>> I am very picky about who I give quilts to because if the quilt isn't
>>> going to be worshiped and adored, then it's are not going to that
>>> person's house. ....
>>> That said, I don't mind if a quilt has a hard life.
>> LOL! I love this place...
>> Doc
>
>