[OT] Celebrating - Page 8

> "BEI Design" wrote...
> > Ursula Schrader wrote:
> > > Sorry, hardly got
> > > time to read here, haven't been to my comp for more
> > > than a week, things are quite desparate here... will
> > > try
> > > and cry on your shoulders later.
> > Ursula, life, especially when dealing with a small
> > child, can really get to be too much sometimes. I hope
> > you can find some part-time help. Maybe your DH could
> > take over child care for a day to give you some badly
> > needed time to yourself?
> Alas, DH can't. In Winter, he took over willingly, since
> there wasn't much to do. But since he's self employed and
> business is - fortunately - picking up again, he is
> working hard enough, doing paint jobs and scaffolding
> during the first part of the day and then visiting
> customers late afternoon. He takes over now and then, but
> I'd be ashamed to put more than a few hours on his
> shoulders. I'll find a solution, though I'm not sure
> which, but I've got a postcard I bought a couple of years
> ago which reads 'Don't give up, your miracle is on its
> way!' Well, I was dead lonely then and it brought me him,
> so to speak, and I'm sure it will 'bring' me the right
> idea for my problems, too. (OK, I'm not quite sure how
> serious I am about this last statement, so don't call me
> a nutcase right away.) ;-) I guess it's just changing
> ones point of view and thus the situation is allowed to
> change. I'm not sure how to put it any better. Well,
> thanks for replying anyway. ;-)

> Ursula Schrader wrote:
>> "BEI Design" wrote...
>> > Ursula Schrader wrote:
> When I was in my late twenties, working away form the home, AND raising a
> 4-year-old (taking her to work with me, family business), AND pregnant
> with younger DD, I was overwhelmed as well. DH and I were constantly
> picking fault with each other. The house was never tidy enough, the meals
> were never .....

> My mother noticed what was going on and hired a part time (Fridays for 4
> hours while I was at work) house cleaner for me. It saved my sanity and
> probably my marriage. There is only so much one can do. Try to make
> SHORT to-do lists, and celebrate as each thing is ticked off.

> Can you start a child-care-sharing group with other young mothers?

> "BEI Design" wrote...
>> Ursula Schrader wrote:
>>> "BEI Design" wrote...
>>>> Ursula Schrader wrote:
>> When I was in my late twenties, working away form the home, AND raising a
>> 4-year-old (taking her to work with me, family business), AND pregnant
>> with younger DD, I was overwhelmed as well. DH and I were constantly
>> picking fault with each other. The house was never tidy enough, the meals
>> were never .....
>
> Fortunately, DH isn't Mr. Clean, so he doesn't complain about the occasional
> dust bunny. He even doesn't complain (just mentions) when he runs out of
> socks. He is a very good husband in this respect, even though he might be a
> bit more attentive in some ways, but you can't have it all, can you? ;-) No,
> I want to be more orderly. However, I've been to see my homeopathic
> practitioner yesterday and she administed something and today I'm so much
> better already. I actually caught myself singing.
>
>> My mother noticed what was going on and hired a part time (Fridays for 4
>> hours while I was at work) house cleaner for me. It saved my sanity and
>> probably my marriage. There is only so much one can do. Try to make
>> SHORT to-do lists, and celebrate as each thing is ticked off.
>
> I will keep my to-do lilsts short, I promise. Next year DD will be off to
> Kindergarten, and then I'll probably feel very lonely, although it will give
> me more time. My, how time does fly. ;-(
>
>> Can you start a child-care-sharing group with other young mothers?
>
> I think I'll try to make an arrangement with my next door neighbour, her
> little boy is only 5 months younger than DD and the two are playing in our
> sandbox together all the time. Of course, she has her MIL who lives in our
> vicinity, but I still think that she might be open to such a suggestion.
>
> I feel so much better, thanks for support and good ideas (avoiding the
> expression 'advice') ;-)
>
> U.
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>

> Tom's wife (with sporadic help from him) raised 5 in rapid fire; my wife
> did 2, with one having ADHD, counting for 3. His comment on viewing the
> commotion described above was always the same: "Toughest job in the
> world, Bill; toughest job in the world"
> And I would add: "And the most important".
> My hat's off to you, Ursula, and all the mothers here, for that matter.
> You don't always hear or even feel the appreciation sometimes, but you are
> our heroines. Mom's rule! Hang in there, kid.

> I'm adding another decade mark today...
>
> All things considered, it's better to be above ground. ;-)
>
> Beverly