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Posted by Ursula Schrader on March 9, 2008, 2:27 pm
"Juno" wrote...
> Ursula, Being a mom with a little one is not an easy job, Being in a place
> you don't like makes it worse. As you say you do have this group and it's
> a big outlet for you. Adults to "talk" to make a world of difference. I
> think most of us have had to face the same problems and understand your
> frustrations. A few suggestions, All my daughters felt the same as you
> about letting a stranger take a baby out,they solved the problem by
> calling the local college to find students who were willing to come into
> their homes for a few hours a week and look after the children while mom
> did something, at home, she wanted to do. That way they were able to free
> up a little time for projects, have the baby looked after and never leave
> the children alone with someone they didn't know. They were always on hand
> to supervise if necessary. Have you considered doing something like that?
> Can someone in your family come once in awhile and give you some time?
> When my children were small my Father-in-law would come to the house
> occasionally, take the children outside to play or sometimes fix dinner or
> let me get out to the store by myself.I had 4 children, my husband worked
> a 14 hour day, getting a business up and running and my parents lived far
> enough away and had full time jobs, so it was difficult for them to help.
> My FIL saved my sanity.
> Juno
I didn't have the heart to snip anything of your encouraging message, so
here's a full quote. May the gods of the usenet forgive me. ;-) Yes,
grandparents are the ideal babysitters. My parents-in-law are both no longer
with us, actually I never got to know them (which is, judging from my SIL's
words, perhaps not as bad as it sounds, since they both were quite strange
about their children-in-law). But my SIL has actually enabled us to go out
on Saturday evenings a couple of times, babysitting her godchild.
And since I've still got loads to do in my old place I take DD to her
grandparents and then rush off for a couple (meaning two at maximum) of
hours of uninterrupted work or shopping. Or I just spend time there and
bring some work with me. It's amazing how my father has changed since he has
contact with his first grandchild. But then, DD seems to have this effect on
everybody she meets. Makes the world happy, the little darling. Perhaps that
is what all small children do... ;-) I'm not quite sure about students, but
then, one never knows, so I'll give it a try in due time. Thanks a lot for
your encouragement and sympathy, it is good to have a place to go where most
folks BTDTGTT. ;-)
U.
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