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Posted by Ursula Schrader on March 11, 2008, 4:52 am
"Juno" wrote...
> Sarah Dale wrote:
>
>> Ursula,
>>
>> Have a hug. I became a Mum at 33 and boy was it a shock to the system!
>> There is a lot of adjustment to get through - child to care for, complete
>> change in lifestyle, metal attitude changes, you name it, a lot happens.
>>
>> 1) Please check with your Doc / health visitor you haven't got post natal
>> depression - I had a couple of weeks where all I did was cry!
>>
>> 2) babies like routines, and work best when kept in one. Learn to live
>> with it, like it. And yes, the routine does change with time as the child
>> grows
>>
>> 3) Give your DH a HUGE kick up the rear and make sure he does his share.
>> I had BIG trouble with my DH - he carried on bachelor lifestyle while I
>> hit 24hr / day Mummy-hood - it wasn't good. He gave me $%^&* all support
>> the couple of weeks PND kicked in - he'd gone out one evening - popped
>> back in to find DD in one room crying in the cot, and me in another
>> screaming, crying and punching the wall in frustration and anger (yes,
>> punching the wall hurts, but better that than DD......) - he went back
>> out again - the next day I went to see my health visitor. 2 years down
>> the line, he's finally doing more chores and spending more time with DD.
>> It's not perfect, but better, and took a LOT of nagging to get there. Go
>> for it! If he's home full time - get him to help 50% of the time - apart
>> from those little chores only Mummy can do - which is only breastfeeding
>> in my book!
>>
>> HTH
>>
>> Sarah
>
> Sarah,
> I'm so glad you told Ursula all the things you did. It sounds like she's
> either in a postpartum depression or heading for one.
> Right now Ursula you need all the support you can get. Please see your
> health care provider and talk it over with her/him. You can only stretch
> the rubber band so far you know. Back in the days when my children were
> babies few people believed that new mothers got depressed. Now it's a well
> recognized problem. As Sarah said get your DH up and helping. You didn't
> have this baby by yourself. It is unfair for all the work to land on one
> person. A baby is work and mommy needs time and help. Don't forget Ursula
> we are here.
> Juno
Hello all who chimed in in this thread and were so friendly to offer good
advice to me.
Thank you all for your care and sympathy. When I started this thread, I was
really down. Because I'm a little overweight (we won't use the ugly word
'obese') my blood pressure isn't the recommended 120/80. So various doctors
tried to put me on medication for it, either beta blockers, diuretica or
something else, which all make my depression come back or have other nasty
side effects. My former GP was so paranoid about that topic that he freaked
out when the lower figure was 85, can you imagine that?
The last attempt was something diuretic from my alternative practitioner
which worked rather fine (better than the other stuff I had which gave me
heat flushes and kept me from sleeping through, not ideal for a new mom
who's trying to grab every little bit of sleep while her little darling is
quiet). I did notice that I was suffering from mood swings, being close to
tears etc. Nothing compared to what I experienced shortly after giving birth
when I was dissolved in tears. To me, that was postnatal depression and it
went away thanks to AP administering something homoeopathic.
About ten days ago, however, I found myself sitting with DH at the breakfast
table, crying for no reason in particular and fervently wishing to cut my
wrists. That was it. I simply stopped taking that water pill and for me that
was my last attempt medicating high blood pressure. My AP says that it's not
really bad as long as the lower figure is below 95 or 100 (which it now is,
I've checked that several times, but which it wasn't when I started taking
that particular medication), so I think I'll be OK. But I'll check that with
her, I've got an appointment tomorrow. Of course, losing weight would be a
great help in these matters. >SIGH>
Now, DH isn't a bad hubby, but he needs to be told what to do. At least he
does it then, sometimes willing, sometimes grumbling. My SIL told me that
he's always been like that, part of his upbringing (don't ask, it'll just
make my blood pressure rise ;-)). Currently, he's suffering from a cold, he
actually had fever to go with it, and I don't think any woman has ever been
as ill as men fancy themselves when something like that befalls them. So I
let him take things easy for a while, but this week I'll start the butt
kicking once more. After all, the scaffolding season is about to start.
So, don't fear that any depression will go unnoticed or that I'm too
stubborn/stupid/whatever to have it treated. Your support is a great help to
me, especially since I don't have a lot of acquaintance that is in the same
situation I'm in. Perhaps another factor is that (don't get me wrong here, I
really like you all and do value you as much as those people I meet in
person every day) the comparative anonymity of the usenet makes it easier to
talk. I won't go into details here, but I think you know what I mean.
So, a big THANK YOU to all the girls here, because I'm afraid that I don't
find the time to answer every post as those who wrote deserve it. Gotta go,
DD needs her mom... ;-) A big hug for all of you!
U.
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Posted by The Wanderer on March 11, 2008, 7:51 am
On Tue, 11 Mar 2008 09:52:25 +0100, Ursula Schrader wrote:
<snip>
> Hello all who chimed in in this thread and were so friendly to offer good
> advice to me.
>
> Thank you all for your care and sympathy. When I started this thread, I was
> really down. Because I'm a little overweight (we won't use the ugly word
> 'obese') my blood pressure isn't the recommended 120/80.
I think the media has a lot to answer for with the relentless pushing of
the size 0 model figures! Unfortunately, the medical profession has rather
caught on to the same philosophy. :-(
Whilst I'm not wishing to appear complacent, some of us *are* larger
framed, and weight does tend to stick.
I always like to quote what the late, great Peter Ustinov used to say:-
'I've stopped worrying about my weight, I let others do that.'
> So various doctors
> tried to put me on medication for it, either beta blockers, diuretica or
> something else, which all make my depression come back or have other nasty
> side effects. My former GP was so paranoid about that topic that he freaked
> out when the lower figure was 85, can you imagine that?
FWIW, the WHO figures are 130/90. Time of day as well as anxiety, stress
can all influence the readings.
My doctor checks my BP twice a year, although I did buy myself a reasonable
quality BP monitor a while back. It links to my PC, so I can keep a record
of readings. I know stress, anxiety and time of day can make BP readings go
up - I can guarantee it goes up several points whenever I'm due for a check
at the surgery!
I always check my own BP for a couple of weeks before I go to the surgery,
I can show the doctor a print out of what it's been like over the last few
days - he's actually used my readings before now on the surgery database.
--
Richard - The older I get, the better I used to be!
the dot wanderer at tesco dot net
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Posted by Pogonip on March 11, 2008, 4:19 pm
The Wanderer wrote:
> I always check my own BP for a couple of weeks before I go to the surgery,
> I can show the doctor a print out of what it's been like over the last few
> days - he's actually used my readings before now on the surgery database.
>
BTDT. It's actually called White Coat response. My doc does the same
as yours. Has me check it at home. He also often does it twice in the
office. The nurse does it as part of her routine, then later, after
we've chatted a bit, he sneaks up on me and takes it again. Ha. He did
finally prescribe a mild diuretic, which puts me in the "safe" zone, and
he doesn't overstress about it. He is bugging me to have a chem panel,
mammo, and physical, though. Said something about my age!!! I told him
to watch his tongue.
--
Joanne
stitches @ singerlady.reno.nv.us.earth.milky-way.com
http://members.tripod.com/~bernardschopen/
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Posted by Juno on March 11, 2008, 5:14 pm
Pogonip wrote:
> The Wanderer wrote:
>> I always check my own BP for a couple of weeks before I go to the
>> surgery,
>> I can show the doctor a print out of what it's been like over the last
>> few
>> days - he's actually used my readings before now on the surgery database.
>>
>
> BTDT. It's actually called White Coat response. My doc does the same
> as yours. Has me check it at home. He also often does it twice in the
> office. The nurse does it as part of her routine, then later, after
> we've chatted a bit, he sneaks up on me and takes it again. Ha. He did
> finally prescribe a mild diuretic, which puts me in the "safe" zone, and
> he doesn't overstress about it. He is bugging me to have a chem panel,
> mammo, and physical, though. Said something about my age!!! I told him
> to watch his tongue.
Joanne, if your taking a diuretic you need to have your electrolytes
checked. The y are sometimes comprised without you realizing it and
that's not good. Get the blood work done. It only sticks for a
second.And you know as well as anyone that you should have the mammo.
You know I'm a compulsive worrier and I just can't worry about everyone
on this group, it will give me more gray hair than I have now.I think
it's called my mommy syndrome.
Juno
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Posted by Pogonip on March 11, 2008, 7:44 pm
Juno wrote:
>
> Joanne, if your taking a diuretic you need to have your electrolytes
> checked. The y are sometimes comprised without you realizing it and
> that's not good. Get the blood work done. It only sticks for a
> second.And you know as well as anyone that you should have the mammo.
> You know I'm a compulsive worrier and I just can't worry about everyone
> on this group, it will give me more gray hair than I have now.I think
> it's called my mommy syndrome.
> Juno
When I started on the diuretic, we did do a blood test for potassium, I
think it was.
--
Joanne
stitches @ singerlady.reno.nv.us.earth.milky-way.com
http://members.tripod.com/~bernardschopen/
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