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Posted by BEI Design on September 18, 2007, 4:11 pm
You all know I cared for my DF (Parkinson's disease), DMIL
(congestive heart failure) and FIL (hip fractures) for
several years. Well, my older DD has just taken her in-laws
into her home, at least temporarily, and tells me I am her
shining example and primary care-giver-information resource.
I'm sad for her, because her relationship with her in-laws
is nowhere near as loving and close as mine was with my
in-laws, but she is a trooper!
We just had a long conversation on how best to include
herself in discussions with their primary-care physicians,
to be sure all instructions are being followed, etc. I know
she'll do well, and fortunately it should be short-term, as
they have their home on the market and will move into an
assisted living situation as soon as their capital is freed
up. Still, this is hard on her as she still has young
children at home, I did not.
Beverly, finishing off the two remaining skirts for DGD's
Highland dance teacher today, so I can get to projects I
really *want* to do.
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Posted by Pogonip on September 18, 2007, 4:33 pm
BEI Design wrote:
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> You all know I cared for my DF (Parkinson's disease), DMIL
> (congestive heart failure) and FIL (hip fractures) for
> several years. Well, my older DD has just taken her in-laws
> into her home, at least temporarily, and tells me I am her
> shining example and primary care-giver-information resource.
>
> I'm sad for her, because her relationship with her in-laws
> is nowhere near as loving and close as mine was with my
> in-laws, but she is a trooper!
>
> We just had a long conversation on how best to include
> herself in discussions with their primary-care physicians,
> to be sure all instructions are being followed, etc. I know
> she'll do well, and fortunately it should be short-term, as
> they have their home on the market and will move into an
> assisted living situation as soon as their capital is freed
> up. Still, this is hard on her as she still has young
> children at home, I did not.
>
> Beverly, finishing off the two remaining skirts for DGD's
> Highland dance teacher today, so I can get to projects I
> really *want* to do.
>
>
>
Maybe this could be an opportunity for the youngsters to spend time with
people who aren't going to be around when they get older. Usually there
are lots of stories to tell, games to play, photo books to look at, that
can make precious memories when the children are older. Neither the
children nor the in-laws should be allowed to get over-tired, but it
could be a precious chance for all of them.
--
Joanne
stitches @ singerlady.reno.nv.us.earth.milky-way.com
http://members.tripod.com/~bernardschopen/
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Posted by BEI Design on September 18, 2007, 4:40 pm
Pogonip wrote:
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> Maybe this could be an opportunity for the youngsters to
> spend time with people who aren't going to be around when
> they get older. Usually there are lots of stories to
> tell, games to play, photo books to look at, that can
> make precious memories when the children are older.
> Neither the children nor the in-laws should be allowed to
> get over-tired, but it could be a precious chance for all
> of them.
Susan hopes fervently this will happen, and I'll share your
ideas. While I had them here, I had many wonderful
conversations with my Dad and DMIL about their lives.
These Grandparents so far have been very hands-off even
though they live right here in town. I'm almost always the
only one to show up for the children's concerts,plays,
competitions, Grandparents Day at school, etc. Their
relationship with the kids will have to be built from the
ground up. Unfortunately, it appears there is some early
onset of dementia in one or both.
Beverly
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Posted by Pogonip on September 18, 2007, 5:51 pm
BEI Design wrote:
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> These Grandparents so far have been very hands-off even
> though they live right here in town. I'm almost always the
> only one to show up for the children's concerts,plays,
> competitions, Grandparents Day at school, etc. Their
> relationship with the kids will have to be built from the
> ground up. Unfortunately, it appears there is some early
> onset of dementia in one or both.
>
> Beverly
>
>
That is sad. Perhaps they will be able to connect better, though. They
might not always understand who the children are. Your daughter has her
hands full!!
--
Joanne
stitches @ singerlady.reno.nv.us.earth.milky-way.com
http://members.tripod.com/~bernardschopen/
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Posted by BEI Design on September 18, 2007, 8:43 pm
Pogonip wrote:
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> BEI Design wrote:
> > These Grandparents so far have been very hands-off even
> > though they live right here in town. I'm almost always
> > the only one to show up for the children's
> > concerts,plays,
> > competitions, Grandparents Day at school, etc. Their
> > relationship with the kids will have to be built from
> > the ground up. Unfortunately, it appears there is some
> > early onset of dementia in one or both.
> > Beverly
> That is sad. Perhaps they will be able to connect
> better, though. They might not always understand who the
> children are.
Oh, they know who they are, they just aren't (or at least
haven't been) hands-on grandparents.
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> Your daughter has her hands full!!
She does indeed. I urged her to be sure she and DSIL are on
the SAME PAGE about how they will handle issues such as
discipline of the children, work-sharing, privacy, expenses,
etc.
I just fervently hope the in-laws sell their house soon, and
are able to move into an assisted living situation.
Beverly, who just finished 5.75 hours of sewing which DD
will use as a credit against DGD's dance lessons. Whee!
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> (congestive heart failure) and FIL (hip fractures) for
> several years. Well, my older DD has just taken her in-laws
> into her home, at least temporarily, and tells me I am her
> shining example and primary care-giver-information resource.
>
> I'm sad for her, because her relationship with her in-laws
> is nowhere near as loving and close as mine was with my
> in-laws, but she is a trooper!
>
> We just had a long conversation on how best to include
> herself in discussions with their primary-care physicians,
> to be sure all instructions are being followed, etc. I know
> she'll do well, and fortunately it should be short-term, as
> they have their home on the market and will move into an
> assisted living situation as soon as their capital is freed
> up. Still, this is hard on her as she still has young
> children at home, I did not.
>
> Beverly, finishing off the two remaining skirts for DGD's
> Highland dance teacher today, so I can get to projects I
> really *want* to do.
>
>
>